A weird thing happened at the mall earlier today….
Well, not really “weird” if you’re me and happen to have conversations with the most random people in the world but still, it was something I hadn’t seen in a while and it both broke my heart and made my jaw drop down lower than it has in quite some time.
You see, I’ve become quite fond of mall walking and before you ask, yes I am indeed a ninety year old woman in disguise. Seriously though, it’s over a hundred damned degrees outside so there are limited options for getting cardio these days. Either I walk inside of the mall with the old folks, try to do my workout video before the guy I live with gets home, work out at five in the freaking morning OR I sweat my ass off and whine the whole time. Uh huh, mall walking for the win, right?
Anyyyydoodle, sheesh…
After finishing my walk, I may or may not have been kinda sorta stalking the DSW Shoe Warehouse window when I heard these teenage boys giggling behind me. What caught my attention is that they were snorting while they laughed and we all know how much I love a good snort snort here and a snort snort there!
“Fer sure, dude…that bitch looks like she is part whale, part pig and part tub of lard! I wouldn’t kiss that gross bitch with your tongue, man!”.
Now then, not being the skinniest straw in the box my damned self, I reeled around to say “excuse me!?!” because I had, of course, assumed that they were talking about my fine flabby ass wobbling in my tight workout pants. Instead, what I saw was a rather large teenage girl sitting on a bench nearby, listening to these boys berate her. She was undoubtedly pretending to be oblivious and holding back her tears. Her face looked white and from experience, I could tell that she was pretending to be busy or to be looking for someone or to be anywhere but there.
“Dude…I dare you to go up to her and ask her on a date! Come on, bro…see if Shamu jumps at the chance!”
I saw her looking for the nearest exit as tears welled up in her eyes. I saw one of the boys approaching her and felt a pang in my heart. Was I really about to witness this girl get terrorized by these awful young hooligans? And furthermore, when did I start referring to people as “young hooligans”? Anyway, I had to think rather quickly on my feet! Suddenly, and without much forethought, I was happily walking her way, sitting down next to her and chatting with her about Lord knows what. Seriously, I don’t really even remember what I was going on and on about but it was something cool, I’m sure.
At first, the girl looked at me like I had two heads. I think she wondered who the hell I was and more importantly why some old broad was talking to her in the middle of the mall. As the young boy deviated from his path and went back to his cackling cohorts, the light bulb went off in her head and she turned to me and thanked me.
“Thanks so much. I really didn’t want to mess with those guys. I’m sure you understand what it’s like to be fat and be made fun of and not have any boys like you. It hurts and it’s embarrassing”.
Oh hell nahhhh, did this bitch just call me fat? What the HELL? Haha, I’m kiiiiiding.
Anyway, I assured her that I did remember a time when it hurt and when it embarrassed me. I told her that she was not alone and that millions of women all over the world felt inadequate for one reason or another. I told her that it was okay to and even somewhat normal to feel self-conscious around boys, especially at her age. But then, I opened her eyes to adulthood and the glorious treasures that awaited her.
“Do you know”, I said, “that I have about four men on the hook right now and simply cannot decide which one I want to be with?”. As she looked at me incredulously, I went on to explain to her that being overweight never has to mean that men won’t come around. I told her all about the guys in my life, how each of them were very different and how every last one of them finds me lovely, sexy and beautiful…just the way I am. I told her that it wasn’t ever simply about being fat or being pretty or the way one looks but that it was also about the way one carries herself and the confidence level she exudes when she smiles, talks or shares her heart. I explained to her that not every man was going to find her attractive or be able to look past her extra weight but that somewhere in this wide wide world, there would be plenty of men who would.
“I dunno“, she said, “guys my age are kinda jerks.”
I assured her that guys my age are kinda jerks too but that you had to look past those kinds of men.
“Yes but, how do you find the kind of men who are accepting of you being fat?”, she asked.
I answered her with the most important truth of all…
“I love myself enough to know that I don’t need a man to make me happy and certainly not the wrong man. It’s as simple as that. Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Stop looking for love. Enjoy your life. Embrace who you are. The rest will follow.”
I looked at her skeptical little face, unsure whether or not she believed me. As I told her goodnight, I was pretty sure that I probably didn’t get through to her but even so, I gave her my phone number and went on my merry little way.
Just a moment ago, my phone rang.
“Hi, it’s me, Cassie. We met at the mall? I was wondering. Well, I mean, you were a really cool lady to talk to and uh well….would you mind if I walked with you tomorrow night?”
As I hung up the phone, I smiled and realized that I’m not sure which one of us helped the other more tonight but either way, I’m really glad my ninety year old ass chose to walk at the mall. I’m pretty sure she taught me something too and as soon as I figure out exactly *what*, I’ll probably be even more thankful!
Steve Madden Kisses,
Me
July 20th, 2010 at 8:31 pm
Where were you when I was that age? Oh… ya… the same exact age…
I’m sure it would have helped avoid my whole “sleep with anything that gave me the time of day” phase…. /sigh
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
@Tori, You know, I had a phase just like that myself. It was in my late teens, just before I met a really great guy who loved ALL of me. I hated that phase so much that I repeated it in my early 20′s, haha.
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Granny you rock!!!! ; )
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:36 pm
@Kim, Ehhh, what’s that you say, dearie?
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:37 pm
I’m tearing up over this… in a good way. You made my night – you are one awesome lady.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:06 pm
@Stella, I am so glad that I can evoke that emotion. I mean, not that I wanted to make you cry or anything like that!
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:37 pm
I wish I had the courage to insert myself into similar situations to help out complete strangers the way that you were able to. You did good. Real good.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:07 pm
@shiny, Thanks, sweet boy. I think you DO have way more courage than you give yourself credit for.
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:40 pm
I believe that we are put places where we can be the most effective person we can be, to live the best life we can live – and you were exactly where you needed to be. Not just for you, but for that girl too.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:05 pm
@Dayle, You are so right about that. I’ve been carrying around some anger and stuff about things that just don’t matter. Talking to Cassie put so much into perspective tonight so yes, she really helped me too.
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:41 pm
You’re a mentor.
Next time you two walk, have some rubber bands and if you see those boys again, shoot them in the butt and then laugh and laugh and laugh.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:04 pm
@Jodi, Oh see, I was going to buy slushees and throw them in their faces!
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:43 pm
Don’t take this wrong, especially since this is my first time commenting, but I freaking love you (and could have used someone like you to sit next to me on a bench like that when I was a teenager)
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:04 pm
@Loved You On Accident, Hahaha, that is the best “don’t take this the wrong way” I have ever heard. Very sweet!
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:46 pm
OMG– I think I am in love with you. I agree with others- where were you when I was young?
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
@Connie, When you were young, I was young…and stupid.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:07 pm
@Hilly, I think I am older than you, so when I was young, you were probably just a thought in your parents mind, lol.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:09 pm
@Connie, Hahaha, well mayyyybe! When I was young, I had a babysitter that told me to love myself the way I am when I told her that I wanted to be blond like she was. I always remembered that chick, even today!
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:48 pm
That was the best story I have read in a really LONG time!!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
@Plomes, Wow, that is quite a compliment and I really thank you.
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:50 pm
Awesome. Simply awesome. *sniff*
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:03 pm
@Lisa, Thanks, pumpkin!
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July 20th, 2010 at 8:55 pm
I think you did a wonderful thing for that girl. Having said that…
I’m not sure I like the expression “having four men on the hook”, but then again I’m not quite sure what you mean by that. Having been a guy “on the hook” in the past, I know what it meant to me. And it wasn’t good. I hope it means something different to you. I’m sure it does.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:02 pm
@B.E. Earl, Oh, I *think* I can see where you are going with that but no, it’s not bad. I’m not leading four men around by their dangly bits, making them buy me things and lying to them about their importance in my life. Each of them knows that I am not really getting serious right now and I like each of them for who they are and enjoy the man I am with at the time.
For me, it just means that I have four fish in my pond. Maybe I should have said that instead? Haha.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:11 pm
Oh Hilly you are amazing !!! I’m sitting here crying remembering my younger (fat) self in Cassie’s situation. I know you have truly made a difference in her life.
On a lighter note – I am so happy that YOU are happy!!!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:12 pm
@Lisa O, Thank you, Lisa! It is so good to see you around these parts, too. I tell you what…this whole thing where I live my life one day at a time and just “be” is a very good thing.
I’m sorry I made you cry. I totally know that feeling myself and didn’t want to see that sweet kid humiliated by jerkfaces.
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
Wow, I wish more people like you had the courage to save a young girl like her from the embarrassment like you did!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:17 pm
@san, See, I didn’t even think of it as courageous at all. Isn’t that strange? I guess I’d rather have been embarrassed than watch HER go through it, yanno?
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:18 pm
@Hilly, bless your soul!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:21 pm
Awesomesauce! I love this story – you’re a bloody legend!
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:12 pm
@Briony, Thanks, Briony!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Here you are changing lives at the mall while I’m getting hammered in my beer and BBQ class. Love this post and love beer too… Just puttin’ that out there.
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:17 pm
@Foo, Someone has to keep the beer companies in business! Woah, it’s like role reversal up in here though!
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:39 pm
You are AWESOME!! ((HUGS))
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:19 pm
@Heather, No, you are! :p
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July 20th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
good post, hil.
we walk the mall also. well, sometimes. for some reason, i like to walk in the dead heat of the day so i can sweat and feel like i’m working out. but i wonder about the same thing when i do decide to walk the mall.. wondering if others are looking at me with such disdain.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:30 pm
@T, You are far more woman than I! I cannot stand the heat and whine when I have to walk in it, haha.
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:02 pm
It’s a sick, sad world when people are persecuted just for existing. It’s nice to know that there are still people trying to change that.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:30 pm
@Dave2, If I could change more, I would.
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July 20th, 2010 at 10:25 pm
This story is the highlight of my WEEK so far. Thanks for sharing, Hilly! Precious.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:31 pm
@The Momshell, Awww, thank YOU for telling me that.
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July 20th, 2010 at 11:06 pm
Hil, that is the absolute BEST story I’ve heard in ages. You are so awesome to have ‘saved’ that girl from those awful boys. I’m so proud of you! Can’t wait to hear about your walk!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:32 pm
@Headless Mom, I cannot wait to GO on my walk. She’s such a beautiful girl and I would love to see her transform from the inside too.
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July 20th, 2010 at 11:20 pm
That is totally awesome! I remember being teased and berated in school for being smart. There is always something that someone doesn’t like, and for some reason that sticks with a lot of us.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:32 pm
@Lynda, It’s true. We all have something. Some people are just better at hiding it.
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July 20th, 2010 at 11:21 pm
Also, when it’s really hot, I walk in the mall. I can’t handle the heat, even though I’m thirty…*cough*….28.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:33 pm
@Lynda, I am just anti-heat all around. No thank you!
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:56 pm
@Hilly, Me too! I mean, the passing out, the throwing up, the getting dizzy. I could do without all of those when I overheat.
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July 21st, 2010 at 3:48 am
You are awesome. I always wonder why people can’t just be good to each other and it just makes me so happy to read this. I love that you did this for her. For what it is worth boys are mean no matter what size someone is. When I was little I was scrawny and insecure and lived through something similar except without the awesome woman being good to me. I’m sure you made a huge difference and that is pretty awesome! If it had been my daughter you did that for I would have been so grateful. She probably didn’t tell her mom so on behalf of my daughters in case someone does something like this for them and they don’t tell me, thank you!!!! I just love the person you are!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:33 pm
@Radioactive tori, Okay you just totally made me tear up, Tori! Thank you so much for your love and kindness.
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:18 am
Look at you being a mentor and role model for young teenage girls. I’m sure Cassie will never forget the day the woman with the fine ass cruising the mall in her tight workout pants saved her from being tortored by boys who don’t know any better (yet).
Girls rule, boys drool. Hilly ROCKS!!!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:34 pm
@MB, Who ever would have thought that MY ass would be mentoring the youth of America? Ha!
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:22 am
As always, you’re amazing!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:34 pm
@Lin, Thank you!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:34 pm
@Lin, p.s….you just called me my favorite adjective!
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:33 am
First time commenting (I think). As I read I was so dreading what was going to happen that I could almost feel that girl’s relief as she realized what you were doing. Thanks so much for starting my day off with a smile!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:35 pm
@Karen, Happy to oblige. I was dreading what was going to happen too as I stood watching this stuff start to go down!
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:46 am
Man oh man oh man, how I would have loved to have my own fairy godmother when I was that girl’s age
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:36 pm
@Tudor Rose, I wish we grew up in this day and age, just a little bit. I think there are many more women than just me that are willing to stick up for the perceived underdog. I like believing that, at least.
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:56 am
To echo everyone else, I really could have used someone like you when I was that age.
Your story inspires me. Perhaps I’ll find myself observing another young girl who could use an older sister who understands.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:36 pm
@Pi Girl, I hope you do and I hope you tell us all about it when it happens!
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July 21st, 2010 at 6:11 am
Hilly, you so totally ROCK!!!!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:36 pm
@Jules, Backtacha, Jules!
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July 21st, 2010 at 7:08 am
oh my gosh, you are amazing! that was so incredible of you to do and SO fast thinking, I am in awe. go you!
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July 21st, 2010 at 7:09 am
I weep to think of all the years I wasted feeling bad enough about myself to date anyone who would be interested in me. I wish my 16 year old self had been fortunate enough to have a wise friend like you.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:44 pm
@Barnmaven, I think we all have been there and allowed what other people say about us to hold us down and stop us from being the best we can be and having the most fun we can. I say, NO MORE!
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July 21st, 2010 at 7:54 am
You made me cry! Many blessing will be coming to the both of you! And those assholes should be happy I wasn’t there!! It would have been alllll bad, believe that!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:44 pm
@Raddest Queen of Them All, Oh I DO believe that. You’d have had your Donna Karan’s up someone’s dickhole for sure!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:03 am
You effing rock. I can’t wait until some girl makes one of those little punks feel bad someday. Not that they’ll equate it with how they made that girl feel, but still. Pisses me off so much!!!
I can’t believe you didn’t post a pic of the shoes you were eyeballing.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:45 pm
@Sybil Law, Oh karma, the silent killah! I so totally would have snapped a pic of the shoes (you know me too well) but those Douche Lords interrupted mah shopping!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:10 am
That girl just got a lot luckier to find someone like you to look out for her. You are truly awesome Hilly.
xoxo
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:46 pm
@Princess of the Universe, Thanks, Princess. Coming from you that is high praise.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:13 am
*tears tears*
Obviously you’re beyond awesome, Hilly. I’ve contemplating doing something similar with a girl who was obviously on a bad date, but didn’t have the guts. Maybe next time I will.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:46 pm
@Txtingmrdarcy, I bet you will. I just know it!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:22 am
What a great thing to do! Thank you for sharing this. It’s lovely to read about a magnanimous act that is actually a lesson in good karma without being all ‘look at me look at me’.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:49 pm
@Liz Hill, Oh phew, I am so glad it came off that way! I’m so not a fan of people tooting their own horns. As you know, I think favors and acts of kindness should be quietly passed between two people, not the whole entire world.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:41 am
That is really so very cool, Hilly. I was porkier than I wanted to be as a teen and remember how it felt not to fit in. You’re absolutely right; as soon as I began living my own life based on my own desires and pleasures — doing for me — the rest fell into place. I began traveling the world in my teens, joined bands, etc. With that experience and contentedness, I have never lacked for male attention.
Confidence shines.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:49 pm
@Peau, I think the true weight of a fat girl is located in her heart and soul. Mostly.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:43 am
Reading this just made my day…thanks!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:51 pm
@Marleah, Oh goodie!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:53 am
Hilly, good for you. I remember feeling so down on myself about my weight as a teen. (Ironically, I’d LOVE to weigh now what I weighed then.)
What a good deed you did.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:51 pm
@Sharon, I am so with you! I thought I was fat when I was a size 12 as a teen, sometimes a size 14. It’s amazing how relative it all is, right?
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:08 am
You rock. That is so great. I wish wish wish I had met someone like you when I was that age. Never ever underestimate the power of a caring adult.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:53 pm
@Jeni, I think kids want to pretend not to give a crap what adults think but often they do. I mean, this girl was like “uhhhh” at first but she’s texted me twice today. Obviously, she is warming.
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July 21st, 2010 at 10:21 am
I bet you made more of a difference to this girl than we’ll ever know.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:53 pm
@Stacey, I hope so.
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July 21st, 2010 at 10:32 am
Oh wow! I am so happy you sat down and talked to her. You’re awesome
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:54 pm
@kilax, I’m happy too. She really lifted my mood as well so it was totally win/win.
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July 21st, 2010 at 11:47 am
Hilly, you melt my heart. That is just about the best thing I have read ever!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:54 pm
@Karen, I melt your heart? Score!
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July 21st, 2010 at 1:41 pm
i know you certainly don’t need me telling you this, but you’re the best one.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:54 pm
@kat, Bah, I love YOU telling me that. I know you have high standards and yanno, I dig what you are saying here.
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July 21st, 2010 at 4:16 pm
This made me cry a little. DON’T TELL ANYONE.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:55 pm
@Tracy Lynn, It will just be our little secret…shhhh.
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July 21st, 2010 at 7:02 pm
YOU? are all kinds of awesome. I feel like I just read a story out of Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul. Inspiring Hilly; very very very VERY inspiring. xoxoxo there needs to be more of YOU out there.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:55 pm
@Krystle @snarkykisses, Hahah, that is totally the ONLY time anyone will equate me with Chicken Soup for ANYTHING so thank you, thank you, thank you!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:23 pm
You are just made of awesome. I don’t know that I would have done that had I been in your shoes. (My wallflower gene yanno.) But that has to be the more heroic thing I’ve heard in forever. The more she listens to you, the more it will sink in, and baby, you will have saved a life. MUAH! I lurves you!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:56 pm
@Winter, I dunno. You seem like you stick up for “the little guy” quite a bit. You have feisty in ya, despite that wallflower thing for sure.
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:01 pm
@Hilly, the feisty in me woulda had me cutting those boys down to the size of peas rather than trying to comfort the girl. I can be a mean old lady.
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:02 pm
@Winter, TAG TEAM!
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:08 pm
@Hilly, Hahaha! You got it!
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:25 pm
I wish me then, had met you now.
You rock… Tell her your “fat” internet friends say it all works out in the end.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:25 pm
@Nat,
Oh, I wonder if they’d get mad at me for mall running.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:56 pm
@Nat, Hahaha, I totally should tell her that! You made me gigglesnort.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:48 pm
This is why I sing you that song. You really are the only exception.
I adore you.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:58 pm
@Scott, Just you stop that making me smile stuff, mister!
You are mah smoosh.
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July 21st, 2010 at 8:49 pm
You were put in that young girl’s path for a reason.Life,I believe,is wonderful if we reach out to one another to share what we know and be open to learn what we don’t.
You are a doll Hilly.
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:00 pm
@Jennifer, That is the best way I have heard that put in a long time. Thanks, Jennifer.
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:28 pm
Ahhh, Hilly you never cease to amaze me! And you made me cry again. <3
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July 21st, 2010 at 9:32 pm
You’re so incredibly awesome! You were in the perfect place at the perfect time for that girl (and I think for you too!).
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July 22nd, 2010 at 9:25 am
[...] Day By TouchedByMadness, on July 22nd, 2010 Yesterday I read Hilly’s post about how she intervened when she saw a teen girl about to be humiliated by a group of unkind [...]
July 22nd, 2010 at 9:35 am
This automatically makes you terminally hot.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 10:51 am
Hey, this is a cool story. I don’t even know you, but I’m proud of you for what you did. Isn’t it amazing how helping others really helps you as much or more? Win win.
PS -I’m wearing a pair of size 12 Steve Maddens right now. The are sort of playdapuss like, but I dig them.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 11:26 am
I see why over 100 people have commented on this post. Awesome sauce.
You are one of the good ones, Hilly.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 12:29 pm
Totally brought tears to my eyes. I’m so glad she found you that day. You rock, Hilly.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 1:34 pm
I was referred here from a blogger who blogged about your blog — this post is very real and very touching.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 3:01 pm
You are all sorts of wonderful and I love you so much for this post and for your actions. I love the idea that one simple gesture can have such an impact on another’s life. You rock girlie! So proud of you and of Cassie. (I cried when I read this too).
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July 22nd, 2010 at 4:57 pm
I love your quick thinking! You are a fine person!
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July 22nd, 2010 at 7:52 pm
This brought tears, both bad (asshat boys) and good (you so totally RAWK).
Awesome for you, and for her. You have changed a young woman’s life tonight.
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July 22nd, 2010 at 10:48 pm
Clap clap clap! This is classic old school Hilly magic right here. I’m so happy that the diva is back. Rock it, you fine-ass bitch!
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July 23rd, 2010 at 5:50 am
This is just awesome. You are awesome. And even if you never run into that girl again, you absolutely had a profound impact on her.
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July 23rd, 2010 at 8:55 am
First, what a bunch of fucking assholes.
Second, you rock!
Third, I hope that girl grows up with as much self confidence as you have. She’s got a good mentor now.
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July 23rd, 2010 at 3:26 pm
Just realized I had lost your blog AGAIN. Found it.
Everyone needs someone to tell them it’s okay to be them. Especially teenagers.
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July 23rd, 2010 at 3:42 pm
You’re a love and you saved that girl from a hell of a lot of pain. So glad to know you.
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July 24th, 2010 at 12:48 pm
Thank you so much for reaching out to that girl, Hilly. This post made me tear up. This is why I love you!
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July 24th, 2010 at 4:05 pm
So there are no words that I could say that someone else hasn’t told you. You are such an amazing person. I feel like this young lady is probably the luckiest girl to have you in her corner.
You make so many want to be better. Thankful that I found your words in this world.
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July 25th, 2010 at 10:48 am
I thought you were, like, 30!
I’m glad you made this little girl’s day and, quite possibly, greatly improved her entire adolescence.
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July 25th, 2010 at 12:39 pm
i don’t know how i discovered this, i know i did it by myself… but what you told this girl, it’s the most important lesson in a person’s life, if you don’t love yourself for who you are, then no one will….
i hope you keep helping her
and viceversa!
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July 25th, 2010 at 4:41 pm
As someone who was made fun of when I was young, thank you for stepping up. I’m sure it meant the world to her!
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July 26th, 2010 at 6:25 am
That was an admirable gesture you did for the young girl. I do believe that people are different, while some may find something unattractive others don’t. I do have my share of such kind of humiliation in the past but now I understood.
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July 26th, 2010 at 9:56 am
Omg Hilly, I cried while reading this. You are AMAZING. <3
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July 26th, 2010 at 10:44 pm
This was so special to read.
I am for the most part, pretty comfortable with my body. The culture shock and the fact that these girls are some skinny bitches has thrown me off my game so this post was like a nice little gift to remind me of the important things.
Thank you.
Good for you for standing up for the little girl and being a great example but more than that, good for you for choosing to love you especially for who you are.
Confidence is a sexy sexy thing.
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